At what age, with whom, how often, for how long? These are questions we cannot answer for you. But how much safer sex is necessary, and what about sex during pregnancy? Are there tips for parents on how not to forget desire amid nappies, baby food and washing up? Read more here.
A Topic for Counselling?
We think so – even if it admittedly takes some courage to bring it up. Questions about the first time, pain during penetration, erectile difficulties, thoughts about asexuality? Pregnancy counselling centres also offer advice on all aspects of sexuality. This includes sex education sessions with young people and conversations about contraception, as well as counselling on sexuality across different stages of life and relationships.
Changes in the nature of a relationship or challenges in one’s sex life affect many people at some point. Starting a family in particular can cause turbulence. We offer counselling to single people and couples, heterosexual people and LGBTIQ+, and people with and without disabilities – on all questions relating to sexuality.
Sexuality
The counselling remit of pregnancy counselling centres also covers sexual education. Many centres therefore offer sessions in schools, advise teachers on how to approach the topic in class, or develop informational materials. All centres counsel and inform people of all ages on matters of sexuality and reproduction. If you are 14 and did not dare ask certain questions in biology class, you have come to the right place. If you are 65 and now have different questions than you did at 14, you are equally welcome.
Sexual and Gender Identity, Sexual Preferences
Who am I sexually or romantically attracted to? Which gender feels like home to me? What kind of sexuality do I want, and how does that fit with my sense of self? These are questions many people ask themselves over the course of their lives. The answers can change. They may or may not fit into neat categories. They can bring joy, relief, fear or shame. If you are asking yourself these questions, feel uncertain, or would like more information – we are happy to offer you a confidential conversation.
Sex During Pregnancy
Yes, no, maybe – or something different? During pregnancy, whatever feels good is allowed. That may mean more, less, the same, or something different than before. Perhaps penetration no longer feels right at a certain stage. Perhaps tenderness becomes more important. Perhaps one person simply has no desire at all. Perhaps the nipples become a new source of pleasure – or quite the opposite. If something no longer feels right, it is time to stop. Pregnancy can be a good opportunity to question established routines and rediscover each other. It can also be a good moment to develop better communication about needs and desires.
“During pregnancy, I loved sex and physical affection. Afterwards, it took me a long time to be able to open up to it again. I felt as though my body first needed to put itself back together.”
When Desire Becomes Scarce
After birth, hormones and birth-related injuries can dampen desire. And the balance between relationship, love, childcare, family, household and sex often needs to find a new equilibrium – which can take time, for people of all genders. In long-term relationships without children, desire also frequently shifts over time. Sometimes one partner wants more than the other. Past experiences of violence can affect sexual wellbeing, as can certain medications or health conditions. Those who miss intimacy can often benefit from counselling. Periods of less passion are not unusual in families or long-term relationships – but there are ways to navigate them or to rediscover desire.
Still have questions?
We are happy to advise you in person. Anonymous and free of charge. Respectful and empowering.