Experiences of Violence

Gender-Based Violence

Many women and girls experience gender-based violence at some point in their lives. This includes sexual harassment in the workplace or in public spaces, sexual abuse in childhood, physical or psychological violence by a current or former partner, and sexualised violence. When and how such experiences are processed varies from person to person. Some are able to return to everyday life relatively quickly. Others take a long time to come to terms with what happened. For some, difficulties only emerge years after the event.

Those affected often feel pressure to justify themselves – pressure that is frequently reinforced by those around them. “It wasn’t that bad, it was so long ago, just let the past be…” We believe: people who have experienced violence have the right to solidarity and support. And we know that the situation is often difficult for family members and friends too. They can also benefit from information and counselling.

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The Impact of Violence on Pregnancy and Birth

Pregnancy and birth are extraordinary, life-changing experiences. Hormonal changes and uncertainty about the future can lead to mood swings, heightened sensitivity and anxiety. During this time, past or current experiences of violence may take on a new significance. During labour, physical sensations, pain, feelings of helplessness or vaginal examinations can trigger flashbacks. If you feel that past trauma is resurfacing for you, you are welcome to discuss this in counselling or with a midwife.

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Domestic Violence During Pregnancy

Paradoxically, pregnancy and birth are risk factors for violence in relationships. Some partners become violent for the first time during pregnancy. In relationships where violence already exists, it often escalates. Violence in a relationship is never an expression of love. And it has serious consequences for mother and child. The risk of miscarriage increases. Children who grow up in households with violence more frequently develop physical and/or psychological and emotional problems. Please be aware: once violence has entered a relationship, it rarely stops on its own. You need to take action yourself to protect yourself and your child or children.

Helpline for violence against women:
08000 116 016
Available around the clock, free of charge, anonymous, in multiple languages.

Counselling on Violence

In many areas there are specialist counselling centres for people affected by gender-based violence. The helpline “Violence Against Women” is available around the clock – free of charge, anonymous and in multiple languages. Phone: 08000 116 016. You are also welcome to come to us first with any questions on this topic. Perhaps you are unsure what kind of support you need. Perhaps you just want to mention it briefly. Perhaps you have concerns about your pregnancy or birth. We are here for you. We can provide all relevant information on experiences of violence and pregnancy, and if you wish, we can refer you to a specialist counselling centre.